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    Quote Originally Posted by ian74 View Post
    I used to do this too, but now I just throw CO2 cannisters at cyclists parked on the sides of the trail as I rocket past them.
    At 20 mph, just drop them about 50 yards before your intended target- I mean, person needing assistance. They should bounce/skid the rest of the way and stop within a few inches of them- good to go!

    PING! PONG! WHACK!!!

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    Pull the pin first and you only need to be close.

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    Today, a dude stopped to ask if I was ok because I was STOPPED AT A RED LIGHT. Seriously?

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    Quote Originally Posted by dasgeh View Post
    Today, a dude stopped to ask if I was ok because I was STOPPED AT A RED LIGHT. Seriously?
    I was once pulled over by a police officer who turned on his flashers after driving up behind me while I was stopped to wait at a red light. I can only guess that my choice to use a bicycle instead of a car was an indicator that I might either need help or be up to something suspicious. In any case, the stop was non-confrontational and the officer very quickly ended it and returned to his car upon determining neither of these to be the case. Although I did then have to sit in front of him for another two minutes because we both missed the brief green cycle.

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    Well this is a relief to me actually. I don't stop to offer help when I'm riding alone and a man is pulled over - but I feel bad about it because strangers have pulled over to offer me help, and I've taken them up on it at least once. And I moved here from the Boston area, where strangers mostly ignore you if you talk to them..... So I think it's nice that people offer, and I'd like to be one of the good guys ....

    But the statistics were 1 in 3 women raped in our lifetime when I was raped in the middle of a beautiful afternoon in the 80s. My son says it's 1 in 5 now, so here's hoping the, uhm, white house role model doesn't roll us all the way back... My rape was pretty low grade - 15 minutes and the guy wasn't even nasty (like he'd seen too many car ads on TV with sexy women standing beside the car, and figured he was entitled to one...)

    So anyhow, I know most of the guys pulled over on the side of the trail are just out for a ride, but how easy would it be to lure someone....? So I usually don't, unless it's a woman or a guy who somehow looks less threatening. Just not worth the risk.

    Which brings me to this:


    Quote Originally Posted by rcannon100 View Post
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    Oh yeah, can I also mention that this did not happen 2 years ago when I was not quite a gray beard. But now that I am a gray beard, if I dare to stop beside the trail - I must obviously be having an F'ing heart attack or something. I must be enfeebled. I must be in desperate need of assistance.
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    The young guy doesnt get asked. The person who is just walking without a bicycle doesnt get asked. The person walking a dog doesnt get asked. And so on.
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    I wonder how many people avoided stopping to offer you help before and now find you to look less risky. My back story would apply more to women than men, but guys hurt guys too, though not usually via rape.

    Also I don't think you can compare yourself to pedestrians & dog walkers - because the main thing people are offering help about is gonna be mechanical issues with the bike.

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    Tonite. Sitting at a coffee house. Helmet off. Bike is locked up 50 feet from me. I am reading about the latest excitement in tech policy. Eating a sandwich. And this pisher comes up to me and asks “Are you alright?? Do you need any help??”

    I almost punched him in the nose.

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    Well, were you OK?

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    i saw a women face down on the road with lots of people around and a traffic jam. I suspected a collision although no emergency vehicles. I asked if a first aid kit would be helpful and someone on the periphery of the crowd said no, I left feeling sad that I couldn't do something to help.

    I few days later I had a flat tire and was on the side of the road repairing the tube when a woman walked up and asked if I needed help. she had passed me in her car and pulled off and walked back because she thought I needed help. Although I could manage just fine I asked her to help watch for traffic so I could focus on the repair and not bad drivers and she could feel useful. A previous time it was a guy who stopped as I was fixing a flat and he dug out a powered air pump.

    In these cases maybe it was a bit of busybodyism using the offer to help routine to get a closer look. I prefer to think people are basically good and genuinely care about strangers. Allowing them to help makes the world a happier place by rewarding the Good Samaritan's attitude even if in most cases help isn't needed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SolarBikeCar View Post
    I few days later I had a flat tire and was on the side of the road repairing the tube when a woman walked up and asked if I needed help. she had passed me in her car and pulled off and walked back because she thought I needed help. Although I could manage just fine I asked her to help watch for traffic so I could focus on the repair and not bad drivers and she could feel useful. A previous time it was a guy who stopped as I was fixing a flat and he dug out a powered air pump.
    Seriously? You didn't pull your car off the road to fix your flat?

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